Dear Opponent

I would first like to appoint you the luxury of being on the forefront of what my family and peers wonder about when it comes to my mental on the field. See, you may not know me today.. But come 0.00 on the game clock u will at least know my pain, my passion, and my drive to feed my daughter.. Because the fine line between myself and glory, is you. I work harder than you NOT to only be better than you. But to also be better than the bastard in your place next week, and the week after. Ive been through enough on the gridiron to call it home, and who would YOU let come into your house w/bad intentions? Right, so wipe those feet when you approach my place of sanction. I NEED this more than you not only because I would like a better life.. But because I REGAIN life when I play. Meaning When I bleed. When I sweat. And when I cry tears of joy prepearing to practically DIE for the man next to me w/the same uniform yet, a different look in his eye askin if im aight! I want this more than you. Know how I know?? Cause if YOU did you'd be writin the same fuccin letter to me..

Love Me Like Your Hobby

What do you like to do? Shop(window/internet)? Club? Gossip? Tackle a good book? All of these past times are a great way to relieve stress or burn time of some sort. But, one favorite I failed to mention would be spending time w/your S.O.! The reason being is the fact that this has a tendency to become a SECONDARY past time for a socially active chick like: eating ice cream, or watching for the Love of Ray J! Small yet necessary Dedications to the appreciation of 'You-Time.' So IM thinking, at what point does the concentrated appreciation of your man come into play?? No excuses ladies.. Just as YOU DO, we like the SMALL things as well. Back/Belly rubs, COMPLIMENTS, sexy text messages, FOLLOW-UPS on those txt msg's! Lol. See where I'm gettin at? , And please don't get me wrong, I said love me like your HABITS, no your CAREER! Handle ya biz. THOUGH, deciding to take on a relationship along side your mission creates extra responsibility, obviously. If there is scheduled time to be spent, and whatever it is you had to do before hand compromises that time, we understand that. Just try your best to make-it-up somehow and in the fastest most efficient way. His frustration MAY or MAY NOT be discouraging. This is why its wise to communicate what is actually goin on.. "Baby I'm sleepy" wont cut it on a consistent basis. Fareal. Think about penciling in different things in that would WOW your S.O.. A lot of times encouraging US to keep up w/the themes of the relationship! Example: When it comes to love and appreciation, ladies you blow the top, you have the ability to take it to the NEXT LEVEL. Meaning you can show your man you love em and not spend a DIME. FOR US, not so simple all the time. When we want to show appreciation, we try our best to simply do what you WANT US to do.. Lol like: clean up, drive when you don't feel like it, take you to work so YOU can save gas, come to bed in the MIDDLE of Madden, STAY(lol), or... Spend that Doe! ;p

The 'Shine' Game

Trying to out-do your woman on an outing is a no go. I am a fortunately blessed black man of what we call 'style' and 'swagg,' (more on the swagg tip really), with a seemingly ENORMOUS amount of growth in observation of such, man or woman. Lately, I get the impression that many of us men have adopted the natural 'competetive' habitat of a female: Hers cant be, look, smell, sound, feel, shine, sparkle, etc. better than mine! Since, the REASONING of it happens to be another story in itself id merely like to express a few veiws as to what we should realize or even consider about WHO exactly we are trying to impress..
I start w/this. 'Your WOMAN is actually all the accessory you need!' Meaning, iced out this, and dipped out that is PERFECTLY FINE, IF.. That is simply what u need for your personal esteem purposes. But, cats seek out to be "flyer" than the very person who is perseived to make that statement FOR YOU anyway, Ya Lady! You give her some chips for anything, what does she get?: Clothes, purses, shoes, jewelery, bills, mani-pedi maybe.. (And in some cases I guess Books & Tuition???? lol) This ALL comes back to you. Hows ya lady lookin? Who did you roll in with? She got a big booty? Lol, jp. These are the things in most cases what you ask YOURSELF before you even decide to take her anywhere, right? You could be the UGLIEST dude in the club, what are ya peers thinkin when walk in w/the baddest lady??? Thats right you said it: "How in the HEOW, he pull her?" It may strike others as a complimentary attraction. She looks goods, shes dressed to kill, she carries herself WELL, and she's w/you. You MUST be doing something correct! Anything you try to say with your over-accessorizin' you can achieve with less flash and sad to say 'Mediocrity.' Simply be able to hold your own! Nothing makes you look good like a gorgeous woman on ya arm. A bigg ass gold chain is meant to be assumed 'you have money.' So, what about HER gold Bracelets, or diamond earings? J's on ya feet(Even though you PROBABLY bought em from a booster fa like $65), is assumed 'I rock J's, so i got DUCKETS! When she can be in the super expensive/sexy heels that defaults that WALK we like! Yeh, I said EXPENSIVE. YOUR THE ONE WITH her so... SOMEBODY'S buyin it! Even if it aint YOU! She looks the part as the Bell of the Ball, and she's with you stupid!

Are Y'all Even Friends?!?!

A subject seldomly addressed in depth with relationships: Friends! Is it hard for one to draw the line w/a close friend who may unexpectedly gather 'heated' inside aggression towards your significant other? First of all, where did this aggression come from? Second, how long has it been a'boilin? Last, can you CONTROL something 'worth' being talked about to ya homeboy/gyrl??

Im at the point of wondering if it is a common thing for a man/woman's FRIENDS to have the jurisdiction to verbally disrespect their spouse. I've experienced small altercations with different 'friends of hers' that I somehow believe didnt start from an average Joe poppin up in the conversation! Isnt it WISER to understand the type of friend you talk about our business (dirty laundry) to? If she isnt very helpful to the benefit to our relationship, let her be a 'yes-man' to something else.

Misery loves company! Nuff said about that.

Last, it almost leaves one no choice but to challenge your loyalty if such a crossing of words takes place, and you have nothing to say to EITHER party. Dont let someone say ANYTHING crazy to your man/woman, hence starting terrible situation between 2/3 of the party! Whether it be me and you, me and her, or YOU and her. Gotta stop it from jump.

Time..

Women truly will respect the fact that we as men are NATURALLY going to respond initially to thing in what I like to call "The Caveman" manner. But, we have to know how to explain it. Many time WE mentally bite off more than we can chew, leaving us no choice but to need 'time' to ourselves, in order to see what it is we need to do to help the situation first. This way, you wont even have to worry about what matter is, since we're in a better estate to communicate the issue. Brothas, try kindly attempting to expess to you counter-part to simply 'let me think for a while, sort the actual problem out, and come to you with either a need for HELP, or a solution.'